Things that are completely unacceptable in any friendship!!

People come and people go, love happens and then heart break happens, relatives become menace but if you have good friend/s, you can actually deal with one and all. But, then at times, we knowingly or unknowingly hurt those very friends who never tell that they love you madly and are always there by you. They are not going to show their anger but when you will talk they will give it on your face, truth will be told directly without meandering.

So, what are (very few) behavioral patterns things that are totally unacceptable with such friends so that you remain BFF.

• Stop constantly judging her/ him

Yes, it is indeed humane to judge the friend, but then haven’t you changed with time. So, when you evolved as an individual, even s/he has right to grow as an individual. And then if your friend is confiding in you or is brave enough to open up to you about her insecurities and personal issues, the worst thing you can do is being judgemental. Stop constantly judging, you’re hurting.

Yes, being a friend means that you can call anytime (24×7) and blast without any reason, and trust me they will give you all ears and heart to listen. You can have overnight went-out, they would love you doing that; but being repeatedly judgemental hurts.

I mean, the whole point around friend is to be yourself without any apprehension and feel good about it. So, be yourself and stop comparing your friend with others.

• Taking her/ him for granted

Okay, yes as s/he is your friend, will always be there for you through your highs and lows over the years regardless of what happens. And yes, you can take her/ him for granted but then even s/he deserves a chance. They too have a heart that beats your friendship. Well, you don’t need to show your love, as your actions speak louder, but then once in a blue moon saying simple words will strengthen the bonding.

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• Hiding your pain from your friend who already knows the tough time you are going through!

Well, growing up also means mastering the art of hiding things from parents (though they realize and are not going to tell you), it is your friend who knows in and out you, you don’t need to tell her/him in person. Your vibes, your words to others, your attitude towards your friend, everything explains the battle you are going through in your mind and heart. Stop acting over-smart, at least not in front of your friend as they are well aware of the facts but just like parents they are not going to tell you, but will ensure that some of your burden is lessened.

Well, friendship is the most eternal bond in this world that allows you to be you… so just be you… And yes, every fight with your friend, only further strengthens the bond.

So, be yourself and give a warm hug to your friend.   

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